Few years ago i wrote up a list
Now i can't find it but I remember the major things in my list about desired attributes in my man
I chuckle to think about the difference now..while some things haven't changed
Some things have amazingly changed in my list
But the most important thing i learnt is to be who you desire and this becomes an automatic magnet
Then...you don't have to prove a point about physical or inner qualities
You are who you are whether during good hair days,bright looking days or days of fatigue
You feel secure in your God-given identity...independent of men's appraisal
Loving what you see when the mirror looks at you anytime-anyday
Not out of self-delusion but by godly, biblical standards
You are loved and capable of truthfully commending and appreciating others too
Oh what a blessing!
You are just the one he can't imagine living without..not like an idol
Of course no one can take the place of God..that's GIVEN!
Any other person just won't fit...because its not about digging
But allowing God work in you to attract your kind-just like a magnet
Your inner and outward qualities just suits...
Yes there are compromises but you don't catch yourself making an issue out of such compromises
It just clicks!
Treating everyone who comes your way right
Being a blessing without ulterior motives
Drawing the boundary lines by divine wisdom
Trusting God to jolt you back into reality when slipping into the world of fantasy
But until then..WAIT on the Lord
Not wait for the Lord as we often interprete, HS reminded me recently about a waiter in restaurants
I mean a tush restaurant with well groomed waiters and waitresses
Who understand the phrase 'customer is king'
It is never about them...they ask what you would like to have(food drink,convenience e.t.c)
They not only stop at 'what' but 'how' and 'when'
The only question they don't ask is 'why' simply because is your call,all about you
That is exactly how its all about God and less self-service during singleness
Even the Bible says an unmarried woman/man
Spends quality time with God and are less distracted
Until i learnt how blessed singleness can be,i had some gloomy,anxious days!
Until i understood lately what it means to WAIT ON THE LORD(WOTL), i peeped through too often
Until i realized my strength lies in waiting on God, i prayed incessantly for strength
Until I discovered what bliss lies in rendering heart-felt service to God, i drowned in self-centredness
Am still learning..thanks to HS: my favourite teacher and friend
Are there still anxious thoughts? Yes! but often short-lived when i remember how am reminded to WOTL
Waiting isn't easy but it becomes easier..much easier when its simply not about us!
Waiting on God isn't a time to check out the highest bidder in carnalty
Who knows tomorrow? Only God can tell who truly deserves our attention and commitment
A digger falls uses the 'highest bidder approach' and often falls for counterfeits
A magnet knows with a clear understanding that God is able to work in her to release potentials
Just a matter of time
A digger's fortune is short-lived but a magnet's contentment is 'peace-full'
Easier said than done, anytime i find myself using some digger approach in my magnetic life; help me to wait on you till i lose such worldly analytical tool for an absolute trust in you
Is 40:31 But those who wait upon God get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, They run and don't get tired, they walk and don't lag behind.MSG
Hab 2:3 This vision-message is a witness pointing to what's coming. It aches for the coming - it can hardly wait! And it doesn't lie. If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time.MSG
